Admin . 17th Aug, 2024, 9:38 PM
People criticized & judged me
As they assumed I must be perfect
→ In their minds, a coach dealing with youth "can’t fail" as a mom!
But “perfect” does not exist....
This “toxicity” affected my relationship with my younger son big time.
I was raised in a family of highly educated members.
We were taught to avoid problems, stay in our comfort zone,
And seek academic excellence.
My eldest son followed our path
My youngest son was a REBEL!
School didn’t mean a lot to him
He was street-smart… Searching for
▪️ New things to try
▪️ New experiences to challenge
▪️ And status quos to change
He gave me the struggle of my life.
But I am grateful for him the most!
Because he taught me that I needed to UNLEARN:
▪️ Comparing him to his elder brother
▪️ Seeking for him the path that I chose in advance
▪️ Asking him to be like the rest of the family
▪️ Pushing him to stop trying new things and avoiding mistakes
▪️ Not accepting his choices in life
▪️ Being influenced by people’s judgments and the myth of the "perfect child"
The moment I did this UNLEARNING
My relationship with him improved dramatically.
Today, my son still gets himself into troubles sometimes, as any teenager searching for his identity,
I can’t stop him, and do not want to....
But the most important thing I gain is "TRUST". I became the first person he calls whenever he needs support or guidance. And for that I am grateful...
It is easier to build Strong children than repair broken adults.
Parenthood does not come with a guide, this is why moms and dads are fighters!
